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Wedding planning, as many couples know, is a full-time job for the bride the groom and the mothers. And you know what, that's nuts! Because the fact is, all four of you probably already have full time jobs. You might even have things in your lives besides your jobs, your beloveds, and your wedding planning! And you need to spend some time cultivating all those things. It will make the wedding planning easier, maybe even streamline it; it will lessen the tension in the house (this is big), and it will bring you into your marriage, loving and celebrating one another. (this is crucial!)
We tend to think, "well, it's a short period planning our wedding. Really?" Most couples spend over a year. Others say, well, we have the rest of our lives together. Here's the news. With any luck, that will be true, but you know as well as I do, that anything can happen. Every day needs to be filled with joy in what you're doing. This is the last time that you'll have today. You can change the focus a bit by concentrating on creating your wedding ceremony and your wedding vows at the same time you're planning this extravaganza. That helps modulate the ways you think about your wedding. But you're planning your marriage at the same time you're planning your wedding. And bad habits developed during wedding planning can sour a marriage.
So, why not practice dating? Dating is a great thing for engaged couples to do. Not, I'll meet you for dinner where we can talk about plans. No, invite your beloved out and make plans. "Will you go out to dinner with me?" And the asked one has to accept (no really, you need to accept!) And then you need to act like it's a date. Talk about work or a movie or your childhood. Talk to one another. Do not talk to one another about wedding plans. Plan something special at least once a week. It doesn't need to be huge. It may be that you need dinner to go over the plans for the wedding. Then do that. But then, go somewhere else for a great glass of wine or a special hot chocolate. Something where you don't allow yourself to do anything but enjoy one another's company.
The art of making small oases in your relationship where you enjoy one another is vital to the health and success of your marriage. Sure right now it's the wedding. But then it's the house or the baby, or something else in the way. Establishing good boundaries now about making time for enjoying one another will make it easy to maintain this practice throughout your marriage. If you look at it this way, you'll get it: Dating is a spiritual practice that enriches sound marriages.
Bottom Line?: Give your relationship the chance it deserves to succeed wildly, against all odds! After all, you deserve it. Your relationship deserves it! And now I'd like to invite you to sign up to receive 2 free templates for creating the wedding ceremony of your dreams, the wedding vows of your heart and the marriage of a lifetime!
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